Make Contentious Child Custody Easier For Children

One of the things you probably never even considered when you were newly married and planning a wonderful future was fighting for custody of your children. That was something that happened to other people, not you. You had found your soul-mate and life was beautiful. Sometimes, life just doesn't work out the way we had planned. In a highly charged emotional divorce, it is often the children who are caught in the middle and suffer unnecessarily. As a parent, it is important to know what you can do to ease the process of going through a custody battle.


In Orange County family court cases, as in most courts, the welfare of the child is of most importance. If you will be going through a legal separation or divorce, there are several things to keep in mind to help keep the focus on a positive resolution. Having the right lawyer on your side will make all the difference in the world. You want someone who will passionately represent you, but who can also keep a cool head during difficult situations. This is not the time for yelling and confrontations.


Practicing Orange County family law attorneys need to be able to offer you clear and concise information about what to expect in court, and what will be the best possible outcome for your family. This is a time when you may be feeling devastated and unsure, so it is imperative that you have confidence in your family law attorney. This is the time when you need expert representation with someone who is experienced with the family law court system and can provide you with the advice you need.


Make sure that you are communicating through your lawyer, and not your children. Do not put them in the position of having to be a message bearer; let them just be a child visiting their parent. Let them try to enjoy some simple, uncomplicated time with you or your soon to be ex-spouse instead of feeling like they are a referee or peacemaker. Try to have "normal" time where the divorce is not talked about, you are just spending time together, regardless of the custody issues.


You may be hurt or very angry, but do not let this enter into the time your child spends with either parent. Refrain from using your children against your former spouse. Keep negative comments to yourself. Reinforce that the divorce has nothing to do with them, that each parent loves them very much. Reassurance is far better than causing further worry or distress.


You and your family can get through this very difficult time and come out whole. It may not have been the future you envisioned, but it can still be a good one. Seek the help of an experienced and compassionate family law attorney and you will be guided through this frightening and complicated experience.


Contact the Irvine, Ca Law Offices of Hollie A. Lemkin today for a consultation and to make a plan for the rest of your life. Hollie will work with you and guide you through this painful and difficult time. Call 949-734-4788 to schedule your initial meeting. Hollie is a Certified Family Law Specialist with offices in Orange County, California.